PRLog - May 5, 2014 - Will me and my ex get back together? is a common question that people in your position have asked since the start of time. Those people who have gotten their exes back have taken a very different approach to the socially accepted actions. Instead of pursuing their exes and trying to get them to change their minds, they understood some things about reverse psychology that actually made their exes start to chase them instead. Of course, you don't want to manipulate your ex or play mind games with them, but by understanding how your behaviour is viewed by the opposite sex, it will be hugely advantageous in your quest to get your ex back.
Will Me And My Ex Get Back Together?
First of all, let's take a look at how your behaviour could negatively impact upon your chances of getting your ex back. You have to understand how these things look to them if you are to change the way your ex views you and make them regret the break up. You should definitely not be doing any of the things below.
1. Calling Or Texting Your Ex
Eeek, I'm embarrassed for you! Please please stop calling or texting your ex constantly after your breakup. You may think that you are being subtle about it and that your ex will think it is harmless, but honestly, they won't. How your ex views this typical post breakup behaviour is very different to how you see it. There are lines that you just do not cross when you are not in a relationship with someone anymore and harassing them is one of them.
It is so hard not to talk to your ex and texting is your only way of communicating or keeping a friendship, but is it really making you happy? You are waiting by the phone to see if they reply, you are a nervous wreck at the thought of what to say to them on the phone, you don't want to say the wrong thing. So why put yourself through it? The likelihood is that you will end up making things much worse with your ex and letting them know that you are not over them yet. Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all.
You have to accept that things are different between you and your ex now, you cannot just continue to text them about everything that happened to you that day. It is hard to get used to and it will take some time, but you need to stop now or you will push your ex away further. Your ex may be replying to you out of a sense of duty or guilt and this is not what you want, do you? You want them to call or text you because they want to hear your voice, because they miss you. The only way that you will get your ex to initiate contact with you is if you stay away from them and back off. This is how reverse psychology works.
2. Trying To Make Your Ex Jealous
Making your ex jealous is a very dangerous tool in the wrong hands, but nonetheless very powerful. Loads of people in your position have tried to make their ex jealous only to have it blow up in their face and make their ex never want to see or talk to them again. In fact, it could end up making you look crazy, spiteful, immature and insensitive and out to cause havoc and hurt to your ex. Do you think that they will want you back then? I wouldn't bet on it.
Parading a new love interest in front of your ex is so obvious that it is humorous. Your ex and everyone else will know exactly what you are up to. Instead of getting the desired reaction from your ex you could find yourself being humiliated and laughed at. It is not a good look and can make you look really childish. Not only that, you don't want to be using some poor guy or girl for your own ends, they have feelings too and don't deserve to be treated like a plaything. Think twice before you use traditional jealousy tactics to get your ex back, most of them don't work.
Trying to make your ex jealous on Facebook is also a big no no. Posting pics of yourself out having fun with other guys or girls is much too obvious. Your ex will know that it is for their benefit and laugh at you. Flirting with members of the opposite sex on your wall is also a bad idea. The trick is to make your ex see you positively or they will not want anything to do with you. That is why you should avoid playing mind games to get a reaction from them at all costs. Your ex knows exactly what you are up to.
Your Next Steps - Do You Want Your Ex Back?
You now need a step by step plan to help you get your ex back faster and you also need to understand human psychology better to make your ex want you and chase you again. The link below will show you how to get started.
Signs Your Ex Still Likes You
Before you start on any journey to get your ex back you will need to know how they feel about you first. Look out for the key signs that your ex will give off when they still have romantic feelings towards you. It is not necessarily what they say either, body language is also important. Click the link below to find out more.
Contacting Your Ex
One of the biggest things that will make or break your chances of getting back together with your ex is contact. It is really important that you get it right of you will end up pushing your ex away, looking desperate, needy or foolish. Instead, you want to use contact to increase your ex's desire for you, make them want to contact you more and create those old feelings of butterflies in the stomach. The link below will show you what to do.