Up until this point you have probably been doing all of the wrong things, this is why you are not making any progress with your ex and they don't seem to miss you or regret the break up. It is time to change tack and approach things from a different angle. Some of the things that this article suggests may seem counter intuitive, but they really work on an ex to make them sit up and take notice of you again.
Get Off Facebook For A While
You have probably found yourself trolling your ex's Facebook wall after the break up to see what they are up to. This is completely normal but not something that you want to continue doing. Not only is it not healthy for you, it will make you incredibly paranoid and you could say and do things that you quickly regret. If you are honest with yourself you have probably written things on your wall to provoke a reaction from your ex. Maybe you have alluded to the fact that you miss them or that you are miserable. You maybe have even tried to make them jealous by posting pics of yourself out having fun after the breakup. It hasn't worked and it never will. It is much too obvious and your ex will immediately know what you are up to.
The last thing that you want to happen is that your ex finds you pathetic, desperate and needy. After all, if you are having such a great time after the breakup, how do you find the time to update your Facebook wall? You'd be too busy with more important things. Your ex will know that it is for their benefit.
Instead, what you want to do is to stay off Facebook completely. No one is asking you to deactivate your account or block your ex. Those actions are very drastic and your ex will also know that you did it out of anger, upset or spite - not a good look. What you should be doing is to keep active and busy with your own life and forget about Facebook for a while. Log out, you won't miss anything. You can come back in a few weeks and catch up with what your friends and your ex have been up to in this time, all you have to do is scroll down their wall.
This will do wonders for your mental health and stop you from making any spur of the moment posts that betray how you are really feeling about the break up and your ex. Be strong and fight the urge to post heart break songs and quotes about lost love.
The good news is that when you practice some self restraint your ex will view you in a much more positive manner. They will be expecting your Facebook updates and they will not come. Your ex will start to wonder where you are and if you are ok. Then they will be much more likely to make an effort and reach out to you via text or email. Their curiosity will quickly get the better of them and they will want to know what you have been up to. Do you see how much more effective this approach is in comparison to updating your profile?
Another great aspect of staying off Facebook is that it is not something that your ex expected from you. Secretly they thought that they could still keep tabs on you in the virtual world after your break up. That way, getting over you would be much easier, they could wean themselves off you gradually instead of dealing with a total loss of you in their world. This is why staying off Facebook is one of the quickest ways to make your ex miss you. They will notice your absence and start to pine for you again. This is something that they didn't see coming and it will make them start to question the break up and if the right decision was made. Contact from your ex should come very soon after you disappear for a while. You might be shocked at how quickly.
Of course, there are other ways to make your ex miss you. Staying off Facebook is only part of the puzzle. You should not be contacting them at all after the break up if you are serious about getting your ex to miss you. If you are always there then they will have no opportunity of realising what a void your absence has left in their lives. Hard though it may be, it is a necessary step in making your ex miss you like mad.
Your Next Steps - Do You Want Your Ex Back?
Then there are a few more steps that you need to follow first. The link below will show you exactly what you need to be doing post break up to make your ex want you back. You should start implementing these things today to see a big change in how your ex interacts with you.
Beware of These Post Break Up Mistakes
After a break up there is a tendency to make a lot of mistakes with your ex. This is very common and is basically due to acting on your emotions. You have to understand how your actions will appear to your ex and how they will prevent you from getting back together with them. The link below will explain what mistakes to avoid at all costs.
Find Out If Your Ex Still Likes You
You also need to know where you stand with your ex to increase your chances of getting them back. Unfortunately you can't just go up and ask them if they still like you. They aren't going to be honest anyway, there is too much at stake. That is why you have to decipher the signs yourself. The link below will tell you what you should be looking out for.