Relationship Expert and Self-Empowerment coach, Dwayne Bess’ Relationship Diet takes a look at how relationships affect our everyday lives. Through assigned exercises, Bess attempts to break down how we relate to people and how it affects our goals, dreams and the things we want to do in and with our lives. He prescribes the necessary tools required in order to live a very fulfilled life. Much the way we would trim fat from our diet, he shows us how to trim away unnecessary relationships and behaviors that keep us from enhancing the quality of our lives and the things we want from our lives.
In the relationship Diet, Bess writes, “Just as eating the right foods can make you feel revitalized and full of energy, having the right relationships can do the same. By dieting ones relationships, they are able to better ensure that their purpose, passion, happiness and income intersect into a much healthier place.”
There are certain aspects of a person that can be appetizing or look good on the surface. There are people in our lives that may satisfy a quick fix or craving but beyond our immediate perception/attraction, what are the long –term effects of giving our time to that individual.
Bess says that, “A common misconception is that our most significant relationships are those isolated in incidents of love. But just as you will find a restaurant or fast food chain on every corner, your relationships with friends co-workers and associates are just as consuming.”
Through exercises, using the eight "F's" to help us identify our priorities and purpose, in addition to color coding the people in our lives (be that red, green or yellow), Bess helps us to analyze our relationships and narrow down those that provide little to no value for our personal goals. In doing so, we may find it easier to reach our goals with seemingly less "fat" to carry.
If you have dated people or are friends with those who don’t have a common long term goal with you be it stability, social life, family goals, spiritual growth, financial success, and it didn’t work out based on very specific things, then don’t jump into another relationship with someone else with the same traits. Take a diet from a person who is unstable, or the person who is unhealthy when you are trying to live a healthy more fit lifestyle. If you are on a path of spiritual growth and are not connecting with people that share the same values, priorities, or goals, then it's simply time to take a diet.
The Relationship diet is also a tool to strengthen individuals lives outside of 'love' relationships. The excercises Bess created applies to relationships with our families, friends and co-workers. As an avid corporate leadership coach, Bess has transformed the social relations in hundreds of companies through his workshops and leadership talks. Bess will be the host of John maxwell's "billionaire thoughts" leadership conference this May featuring Eric Thomas and Jeffery Gettomer.