Kama Frankling has found a new confidence in going grey. Having been through a journey of discovery during her transition to grey, Kama is now inspiring others to have the confidence to make their own life choices rather than feeling pressurised to follow the crowd.
Kama took the decision to stop dyeing her hair at the age of 44. At the time, she had a variety of health problems including a failing liver, weight gain, headaches and fatigue. Kama realised that although she was careful about what she ate and what she applied to her skin, she had ignored the discomfort she experienced from having her hair dyed. She had been colouring her hair for over 20 years. Kama had been told that some stinging and burning was typical and was nothing to be concerned about. She decided to research the chemicals in hair dye and found that they could be responsible for her symptoms. She also found stories about others who had reacted badly to colouring. So, she took the decision to stop dyeing her hair.
Kama noticed that shortly after, her symptoms disappeared. Her liver was back to normal, her weight dropped and she could eat whatever she liked. She’s also proud to say that she has remained healthy ever since.
‘I say dared to go grey, because it was not an easy decision to make,’ explains Kama. ‘My initial decision was based on my health concerns. I did not feel ‘ready’ to go grey. At the time I took the decision I was not feeling confident. When I announced my decision, I soon became aware of the fear within many women around stopping colouring. Women approached me saying that they wished they had the courage to stop dyeing their hair. When I asked them why they didn’t do it, they replied that they were worried about what others would think, Some said I would look old, would never be able to get a job and that my partner would no longer love me. At first I felt upset by these comments and then I felt annoyed. There is so much external pressure on us and it’s easy to let this become overwhelming. We all need to feel happy with the way we are and who we are on the inside. ‘
Kama shared her Journey To Grey via U Tube and this received 37,000 hits.
Now, Kama can see that for many years she used her hair as a mask.’ I always hid behind beautifully coloured hair. I got it cut professionally on a regular basis. I always felt that if my hair looked great then it would distract from the rest of me. My hair was my fake confidence. I loved my dark chocolate brown long hair and I used it to hide my insecurities. But I didn’t love it enough to let it potentially kill me. So when I gave up colouring it, I knew that I would have to find confidence from within. I needed to be happy with who I was on the inside and shine with confidence from the inside out.’
Kama utilised tools, self awareness practices and studied the roots of confidence. She then put all of these into action and built her inner confidence to a level where she felt totally comfortable with her grey hair. Kama adds: ‘I’m more confident now than I have ever been in my life! I have lasting confidence because I have found it within myself. I am not saying that you have to stop colouring your hair to find confidence. What I am saying is that often we believe we have found a balance with being the person we truly are, yet we find we are still hiding behind something. True inner confidence just seems to elude us. When we emerge from the place where we have been hiding, it is then that true inner confidence emerges. People hide behind a relationship, a career, fashion, creativity, and many other places. I just happened to be hiding behind dark chocolate dyed brown hair. If you find confidence through external aspects this can only ever be temporary because there is always a fear that the confidence can be taken away. Inside you are still the same person with the same insecurities. Now that I have discovered lasting confidence, I want to share how this can be achieved with others, so that they can find inner peace and be truly confident too.’
BIO- KAMA FRANLKING
Kama Frankling, 46, is a Coach, Counsellor, Artistic Photographer and Author. She lives in Hertfordshire with her partner Wayne.
She has recently published her book: - Daring To Be Grey – ‘How to confidently stop colouring your hair’. It has received magnificent reviews including:
“Kama Franking has done something that should be unremarkable but is, in today’s society, rather unusual. Youthful, vibrant and professional, she made the decision to stop dyeing her hair and embraced the process. Here, she tells us why going grey turned out to be a wonderful journey to increased confidence. If you are at all interested in making the same journey, read this book. But it is much more than a book about going grey. This is also a clearly written, gentle guide to becoming more confident. Easy to read, easy to grasp and easy to put into practice. Most of us would like to be more confident, and many, I guess, are mystified by confidence – where it comes from, why it disappears, how to get it. The answers are here.” – H. Balcombe
“An inspirational book, written by a woman who has been through the process of ‘Daring to be Grey.’ A great little read to boost confidence with lots of helpful advice on how to blossom into the beautiful woman you are inside.” – Jackie
As a Confidence Coach, Kama provides one to one confidence coaching and coaching packages. She also undertakes photography sessions for those who have gone grey.
On 7 December, Kama will host a grey/silver lunch in London. She already has 16 attendees and some are flying in from Ireland, Finland and the USA, such is the interest in the topic.
In 2014, Kama intends to hold weekend events focussing on Inner and Outer Confidence. These will include hair, make up and style tips for those with natural hair as well as personal development sessions.
For further information, photographs or to arrange to interview Kama, contact:
Susan Brookes-Morris of Positive Publicity on:
mobile: 07890 051638
There is also more information at: www.daringtobegrey.com (http://www.daringtobegrey.com/