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Follow on Google News |  What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Contacts YouIt is difficult to know what to do when your ex boyfriend contacts you. Should you be polite, ignore him or tell him that you still love him? That depends. Find out what you should be doing and why when your ex boyfriend calls you.
By: CharlotteJane Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself Not great to hear, but it needs to be done nonetheless. You see, when you talk to your ex boyfriend and you are still depressed and unaccepting of the break up, it will inevitably come across when you talk to him. He doesn't necessarily want to hear that you hate him or that he broke your heart. He also doesn't want to deal with an emotional sobbing wreck on the other end of the phone. It is harsh yes, but you have to start thinking of things from his perspective. He contacted you out of guilt or interest. Maybe he is questioning the reasons for the break up ad misses you. Therefore the way that you react to his call will either reaffirm his decision to end it or make him see the error of his ways. If you are depressed you will not be fun for him to be around. He is thinking of the old you and how you were when he first fell for you. It is essential that you get this person back if you are to make him want you again. If you are approachable and open to conversation with him then that will also give him the impetus to contact you again. If you put him off by whimpering and declaring your love, contact from him again will be few and far between. Don't Pursue Him Whatever You Do! After he contacts you, you cannot use this as your green light to start pestering him and hounding him with calls or emails. What interest he had in you up until this point will quickly disappear if he thinks that you are a bunny boiler. Instead, you have to wait for him to make the effort with you. Then you will know if he is interested or not. Remain Calm, Composed and Laid Back Playing it cool can seem like a game to many girls, but it isn't really. You are just ensuring that you give off the right vibes - those that are attractive to him. Rushing to the phone in a frenzy, hitting send on a text right after you receive one, blowing up his inbox with messages, these are all huge warning signs to him that you have been sitting there waiting for him to contact you. Kind of off putting isn't it? The last thing that you want him to think is that you have nothing better to do than sit around waiting for his call. You need to be attractive to him again, someone who is independant and busy. If you have to talk to him face to face or on the phone, you will have to be even more composed. You cannot hide your delight behind a computer screen. Grinning like a cheshire cat and getting frantic in front of him because he said "hello" is going to make him think that you are unstable or needy. These attributes will never win his heart back. You have to be careful here. Try to gain control of the situation and steady your voice. If it is all too much for you to handle make a polite but quick getaway to save yourself the humiliation of crumbling in front of him. No rambo moves here though girls, suddenly running off in the opposite direction with your hands over your face could be injurious to your health and others. It is going to start him wondering if you are avoiding him. Not what you want to be doing if you want to encourage contact, is it? Don't Give Him What He Expects So your ex boyfriend has contacted you out of the blue. How should you react to this? Well if you want him back it is good news. Do a little dance and scream in the privacy of your own home, you must be doing something right! If you never want to hear from him again and he makes you feel nauseas - delete, delete, delete. Now, if you still love him you will want to behave in the appropriate manner. Never declare how you are really feeling to him and I mean NEVER. You will be giving him exactly what he wants. Feeding his ego will only make him feel like he can treat you whatever way he likes and you will still come running. Instead you need to make him feel vulnerable. Make him realise that you are okay without him and that he hasn't gotten you all figured out. In truth, he will be expecting you to act in a certain way when he gets in contact with you. He thinks that he knows you. Catch him off guard by seeming busy or vague about what you are up to. Don't launch into a tirade about everything you have been doing since the break up. He doesn't want to hear about how you polished off two litres of ice cream whilst watching re-runs of 'The Notebook' (good film though, isn't it?). Keeping him guessing will inevitably make him want to know more about you and your new life. He will start seeing you as interesting and mysterious again and be sad that he is not part of that anymore. He likes to play chase and you should give him what he wants, for now at least. Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back? Then you have some work to do. You need to get to grips with the male pysche and understand why he is behaving in a certain way. You also need to be aware of the mistakes that girls in your position make when they break up with someone. The link below will teach you what mistakes to avoid if you want to win him back. http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/ Signs He Still Loves You You will need to know how he really feels about you before you try to win him back. Knowing where you stand is essential if you want to maintain your dignity. Luckily there are clever ways to find out how he really feels about you. Learn how do to it by clicking the link below. http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/ How To Make Him Want You Back This is the secret of getting him back. You need to be able to recreate the desire that he once had for you. This is actually kind of simple once you understand how. The link below explains it all. http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/ End
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