Can't Stop Thinking About My Ex Boyfriend - What To Do

Aug. 14, 2013 - PRLog -- So you can't stop thinking about your ex boyfriend and you secretly wish that he is thinking about you too. Is he? The thing that you have to understand about breakups is that emotions just don't turn off like a tap once you are not in a relationship anymore. Even if you were the one that was dumped it does not strictly mean that your ex boyfriend is completely fine with everything and he has forgotten that you exist.

The chances are that he is thinking about you just as much as you are thinking about him. When you are in a relationship with someone emotional bonds are formed that last for a very long time. These are very difficult to break, it takes time to get over someone. Your ex boyfriend still probably thinks of you as his girlfriend and has lingering feelings towards you - it is impossible to be with someone and then just turn off your feelings automatically. This is why you have to act quickly if you want him back. There is a certain period where he will be missing you and pining for you, this is the opportune time to get him back.

What Is He Thinking About You After The Breakup?

That depends. If it was him who inititated the breakup he could confused and going through a difficult time. He may appreciate that he has time to himself to think things through, but that does'nt mean that he is over you. Sometimes guys can make snap decisions to end a relationship and regret it later. They need some space to come to terms with what has happened and work out if they made the right decision. 

During this time they will start thinking about you A LOT! It is actually a good thing because he will naturally start reminiscing about all of the good times that you shared together and start missing you in his life. This is why it is crucial that you don't try and contact him at this time to convince him that you should be together. He needs to come to this realisation on his own. He also will never miss you if you are still inserting yourself into his life. 

If you are still texting, ringing or bumping into him after the breakup your ex boyfriend will start viewing you negatively and deem you desperate. He will be thinking about you too, but not in that way that you want. He will start trying to avoid you and worry that you have become a psycho ex girlfriend who stalks him and won't let go. You DO NOT want him to see you this way so you have to assert some self control and stay away from him. When he thinks of you it has to be in a positive sense and there needs to be a sense of longing. The only way that you can achieve this is by staying silent and staying away.

What To Do To Take Your Mind Off Him

I Can't stop thinking about my ex boyfriend, what do I do? It may sound like an impossible task, but you have to keep your mind and body busy. The more time you spend moping around and pining about your ex boyfriend, the more likely you are to make huge mistakes and call him or stalk him online. You have to get back out there and fill your life with as much as possible. Go out with friends, spring clean your house, get a part time job - do anything that helps to pass the time. 

This also has other benefits as he will start to see the positive changes in you and see that you are getting on with things. This is more likely to make him sad that he is not part of your life anymore and worry that you are slipping away for good. Everyone wants to be with someone who is interesting and independant. I know it is not nice to hear, but if you are slumped in a corner, crying over him and posting mad things on Facebook, he will know - he just will. Give him the opposite of what he expects and show him what he is missing out on!

Your Next Steps - How To Make Him Want You Back

Your ex boyfriend will never get back together with you unless he wants you first. You need to create this desire again. There are specific ways to do this that rely on male psychology. Click the link below to find out how to make him crazy about you again.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/how-to-make-your-ex-boyfriend-want-you-back

Find Out If He Still Likes You Here

You need to know where you stand with your ex boyfriend. Being in the dark and getting loads of mixed signals will only drive you mad with confusion. Find out how he really feels about you after the break up by learning to read the signs he is exhibiting. The link below will show you what these signs are.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/03/does-he-still-like-me-how-to-find-out

Avoid These Mistakes After Your Breakup

If you are confused about what you have done wrong after the break up then you need to start looking at your own behaviour and understand how it might look to your ex boyfriend. You probably don't realise that you have done anything untoward at all, but is this really the case? The mistakes below will show you exactly what most girls in your position get wrong after their breakup that ends up pushing him away.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/mistakes-girls-make-after-the-break-up