It's time to destroy another illusion!
In my book CONFIDENCE EXPLOSION (http://www.amazon.co.uk/
You've probably heard wives, husbands, girlfriends & boyfriends use the expression "my other half" to refer to their partner. On the surface, this appears to be innocuous. But if you actually analyse the language being used, the implication and assumption woven within the language is that the only way we can be whole and complete is to be "with someone" – someone that "completes" us.
And, therefore – by implication – if we're not "with anyone", we must be "incomplete"
(As a humorous aside, most people who celebrate Valentine's Day actually have no idea why they're doing it, and know next to nothing about how it came about to begin with!)
But the truth – despite the insidious illusions that arise from the consumer-driver culture in which we operate – is that we're already complete, because it's how we showed up: absolutely whole and complete.
"There isn't any second half of myself waiting to plug in and make me whole. It's there. I'm already whole."
– Sally Field
To me, a truly healthy relationship isn't one that's based on the idea that you need each other's presence in order to be complete. Instead, it's one in which you're so aligned with your own inherent value that you're able to celebrate each other's completeness. That's a far more healthy, wholesome, nourishing way to operate, as opposed to thinking that the someone else holds the "missing part" of you that you believe you don't have.
Remember that regardless of what you have, regardless of what you don't have, regardless of who you're with, and regardless of who you're not with – you are complete. There's nothing "missing" inside of you! There's nothing need from outside of you to make you whole, because wholeness is your natural state.
So when the world around you presents to you these illusions, recognise them for what they are. Refuse to buy into them. Refuse to succumb to the lies and distortions. Refuse to allow them to take you away from the awareness you have of your own completeness;
You are complete. You are absolutely whole. There is nothing missing inside of you. You are not "half a person" that needs to be completed through the presence of someone else. You are enough, just as you are.
So stop talking Valentine's Day so damn seriously. After all, it's ultimately just another way for large corporations to stick vacuum cleaners into our wallets and suck the money out! It's a consumer-driven occasion!
If you are single on Valentine's day, take some special time to honour yourself. Remind yourself of your own value. Give yourself a gift. Give yourself the gift of settling into the awareness of the divinity within you.
Honour your own power. Celebrate your completeness, and allow the emanation of that energy to be the very foundation of the way you move through the world.