"The excitement of the holidays are over and life has returned to the mundane. You might be wondering what will make 2013 different from 2012," says Nelson. "Here’s a radical suggestion: be more optimistic."
Studies show that being optimistic affects the way we live. Research (http://news.yale.edu/
"Other studies show optimists experience significantly less stress, less depression, and heal faster than pessimists,"
Nelson offers these tips to becoming more optimistic.
If you are not getting along with your boss, instead of focusing on the negatives, look at the situation with a new lens. Is your boss getting the job done? If the boss is new, does it look like he is trying to manage well? If so, cut your boss some slack. Meanwhile, look for ways to maximize your skills and your contributions to the company.
Job Security: Play the “what if” game--but with a positive spin.
We all play the “what if” game, but for the most part, we play it negatively. For example, take a common concern: “What if I get fired?” which usually leads to “What if I can’t get a new job?" Panic sets in, and with that, your stress increases as your ability to think clearly and make good decisions goes downhill.
Play the “what if” game in a hopeful direction: “If I get fired, I have a good skill set. I’ve learned a lot at this job and I’ve made new connections. I’m sure I can parlay some of that into a new situation. Meanwhile, I’ll put some extra effort into my current position so I’m not so dispensable.”
Home Life: Reminisce constructively.
Most of us, when faced with a situation we don’t like, reminisce destructively. We think of the bad things that have happened, how awful it felt and how hard it was to get back on track. For example, how hard it was to blend your family with his, or how annoying your in-laws are.
Instead, reminisce constructively. Find the positive. It may be that his and your kids are getting along better now, finding their footing within the family with fewer emotional disasters. Or, about how your in-laws made an effort over the holidays to be less critical. Deliberately think about all the good things that have happened. It will be surprisingly easy to change gloom into optimism.
"There are no downsides to becoming an optimist," says Nelson. "No nasty side effects, nothing that warrants disclaimers or fine print of any kind. Be an optimist and enjoy a simply fabulous 2013 at work and at home."
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