Then one day, one of your friends lights up a cigarette. Or a joint. Or decides to shoplift. Or to steal a bike. Or to drink some beer or liquor. Then they ask you if you want to join them.
Nobody wants to feel left out, and nobody wants to have their friends call them names or think they're "soft". The pressure to fit in, especially in a group dynamic, can be unbearable.
The important thing to remember, and to learn as early as possible, is that every decision you make in life, has to be made for the right reasons. How will it impact your life now? How could it impact your future? How could it impact others? What would the repercussions be?
Of course, this is much easier said than done. I went through it, and I honestly believe that most people do. Growing up is hard enough without having to juggle what's so often perceived as "loyalty" to your friends, even if what they're trying to get you to do is stupid, reckless and sometimes just plain wrong.
How and where does Kid's Martial Arts training in Poughkeepsie fit into this issue?
For starters, and as I've mentioned in past articles, Martial Arts training isn't just about fighting and self-defense. While those two points are important, the way your training will affect the rest of your day to day life is where the true value lies.
Discipline will transform you into a new person. You'll make better decisions because you will think things through and consider all the potential results.
Confidence will give you the power to say no when you need to, even at the expense of some mocking or ridicule from others. You'll stand up for yourself and to be honest, realize that someone trying to get you to do something illegal or unhealthy isn't being much of a friend.
Camaraderie will provide you with friends who have taken on the same endeavor as you have in Martial Arts. Please understand that I'm not saying all your friends who don't train aren't good friends. What I AM saying is that you will likely be training with a lot of people in your age group who will likely experience some of the same issues as you when it comes to peer pressure.
Enthusiasm of training is a bit of an intangible idea, but I can tell you from experience that the love you have for your training - in my case Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu - will change your entire mindset. You will think about training all the time. The thought of missing a session, class or open mat will drive you crazy. Missing a new technique will keep you up at night. That, my friends, will keep you walking the straight and narrow in and of itself.
Don't even let anyone make your decisions for you. You control your own destiny, and all that's required is hard work, discipline and dedication.
Check us out at http://www.lagrangemartialarts.com for the best kid's MMA classes in Poughkeepsie. Your child will learn unparalleled self defense skills, all while building confidence and a resistance to negative peer pressure.