Fear, simply, means “something’
Look at what’s coming. I perceive something coming. What, exactly, is coming? Is anything actually coming? If nothing is coming, then there’s nothing to fear. Sometimes we know that what we fear isn’t really coming.
If something is coming, what is it? What does it actually mean? What are the odds? What might happen? Really?
Look at what “ready” looks like. Often we feel “not ready” because we haven’t figure out what it looks like! After all, how can you know whether or not you’re ready if you have no idea what that means? Go past the feeling to what “ready” actually, realistically looks like.
If you’re ready, then you can just go. You can have confidence. Confidence is a certainty you can do a thing. If you don’t know you can do it util you do it, then developing confidence can take a while. You may know that you can give it a try. You know you can get started. You can that level of confidence. You can do it, and you can learn from the experience. You can get better.
Some people have an inflated idea of “ready.” They want to be “black belt ready” at their first “white belt lesson.” A more objective view of what “ready” should be for you right now helps you. You know where you ought to be right now. Then you can start.
If you still feel fear, going anyway is courage. Courage means “I feel fear; I’m going anyway.” Yes, I know what I need to do, and it still scares me. I’m going to do it anyway.
At the very least, you know you can do what you need to do and produce some kind of result. You can have confidence in this even if you’re still afraid. You can move forward with both confidence and courage, even if you still feel fear.
I’m gong to do what I’m going to do. If it’s good enough, it’s good enough. If not, then not. I’ll find out more.
Of course “it’s not that simple.” This barely scratches the surface of how to actually do all these steps. For a more complete exploration, you want to learn the Language of Emotions in much more depth!
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