"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.
"I don’t much care where--" said Alice.
"Then it doesn’t matter which way you go," said the Cat.
"--so long as I get SOMEWHERE," Alice added as an explanation.
"Oh, you’re sure to do that," said the Cat, "if you only walk long enough."
(Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Chapter 6)
Direction has to do with the route you take, the pace of your movement along that route, what you learn along the way, others who watch you go into the horizon, and the destination.
THE ROUTE YOU TAKE
Most of us are already well into or quite a way along the road we chose. Often the signs along the way are not accurate, and sometimes we take a short cut or a detour. We then discover – all too late, hidden dangers. Many have just picked themselves up and started again. Some have stayed stuck and stagnant or just wilted.
THE PACE OF YOUR JOURNEY
Most of us pursue the path towards what we think is the ideal destination-
Pace becomes a pivotal aspect of our plans and schemes to move forward into the future. Pace is a word that describes your speed of movement when walking or running; it includes the idea of progress or forward movement towards a goal.
We all want progress, but if you're on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive.
C. S. Lewis
Some of us are rushing along the path to make up for lost time and past failures. Some of us are going steadily so as to avoid repeating certain stages of the journey. Some of us are in competition with the Joneses; some of us are overconfident and underestimate the demands of the journey. Which one are you?
WHAT YOU LEARN ALONG THE WAY
Our attitudes, beliefs and opinions are formed over a lifetime of information, experiences and associations. And so we learn to keep ourselves feeling safe and competent and happy. We learn to remain in control, to win and not lose, to not feel negative, and to be rational.
Learning along the way comes with its challenges and brings out important qualities in us. We learn how to stay determined and resourceful when obstacles confront us. We learn how to recover from mistakes that bring us close to calamity.
We often criticise people who seem to never learn from their mistakes. But, brain science researches tell us that there may be neuro-chemical reasons for why some repeat their mistakes; and why others know that a certain action is a mistake the first time they carry it out - and do not feel the desire to repeat it. And the young (hopefully) learn that life’s journey is not about instant delivery and entitlement.
OTHERS WHO WATCH YOU GO INTO THE HORIZON
The experiences of others who have gone before us and the wisdom of the ages can be priceless signposts through the various stages of your life. There are many bends in the road of life - as you head towards somewhere special. There are many intersections where a crucial decision must be made that will have far reaching consequences.
It may be that you’re on a journey you feel you are destined to make - off the beaten path. Those you see you go by may laugh and ridicule you. Have the courage to do what you were born to do.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Destination is the ultimate purpose for which something is created or intended. It is the place to which one is going or directed. Destination is an appointed place for a specific purpose. So where are you going to, and are you sure that when you get there - you would be at the right place at the right time?
Minnie Louise Haskins wrote a beautiful poem called God Knows. I close with the opening lines. I hope you find this enlightening and I hope it helps you as you consider the route you took, the route you might want to change, or the route you plan to take in life:
And I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year:
“Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown.” And he replied:
Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the Hand of God. That shall be to you better than light and safer than a known way.”
So I went forth, and finding the Hand of God, trod gladly into the night. And He led me towards the hills and the breaking of day in the lone East.
My sincerest best wishes