How to support a grieving loved one during the holidays

Dec. 6, 2011 - PRLog -- PORT CHARLOTTE, Fla. -- (Dec. 06, 2011) – The holidays are a joyous time to spend with family and friends. However for someone who is grieving after the loss of a loved one, it can be a trying time.
“The most important thing you can do for that person is to be there for whatever he or she may need. It can be difficult to know what to say or do when someone you love is grieving, but don’t let discomfort prevent you from reaching out,” says Mark Ackerman, executive director of Royal Palm Retirement Centre.
The holidays may create painful reminders that emphasize a person’s sense of loss. Often, friends and family members are unsure how to act or what to say to support their grieving loved one during the holidays. Ackerman offers this advice:
•   Do not struggle with finding the "right" words to say. A simple "I'm sorry" is often enough.
•   If you do not know what to do, ask yourself, "What would I like done for me under these circumstances?" It's okay to be direct. Ask grieving friends what they need.
•   Share your own grieving experiences, but use good judgment. Only share that which will offer hope and survival.
•   Include grieving friends in social invitations, but be sure to allow them to freely accept or refuse without pressure.
•   Acknowledge the loss. This can be said simply and directly or send a note, flowers or a donations to charity in their name.
•   Do not withdraw support too quickly after the funeral. This could create another sense of loss.

Ackerman adds that the best way to help someone who is grieving during the holidays is to let them know you care about them and that their loved one is not forgotten.