So FAILURE and PAIN – Edison, the famous scientist failed in over 2,000 attempts to create the light-bulb. It was clear however that in this instance that Edison was learning from every single experience.
To understand how best to deal with pain, we need to experience pain. No one answer will suffice for all, yet one common denominator will run throughout each escape, that the person who solves the pain associated with a problem, with ease, will be one who is in a better state of mind.
Actively encourage every tool you have to stay in a better state of mind and then both Pain and Failure will be short-lived and eventually beneficial.
THE BUZZARD, THE BAT and THE BUMBLEBEE
If you put a buzzard in a pen six or eight feet square and entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of his ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight from the ground with a run of ten or twelve feet. Without space to run, as is his habit, he will not even attempt to fly, but will remain a prisoner for life in a small jail with no top.
The ordinary bat that flies around at night, a remarkable nimble creature in the air, cannot take off from a level place. If it is placed on the floor or flat ground, all it can do is shuffle about helplessly and, no doubt, painfully, until it reaches some slight elevation from which it can throw itself into the air.
Then, at once, it takes off like a flash.
A Bumblebee if dropped into an open tumbler will be there until it dies, unless it is taken out. It never sees the means of escape at the top, but persists in trying to find some way out through the sides near the bottom. It will seek a way where none exists, until it completely destroys itself.
In many ways, there are lots of people like the buzzard, the bat and the bee. They are struggling about with all their problems and frustrations, not realizing that the answer is right there above them.
THE AMAZING MATHMATICAL FORMULA FOR EMOTIONAL PAIN
Contrary to popular opinion ... expecting the impossible of ourselves is not motivational. It is suicidal. This is not to be confused with expecting the best of ourselves, or believing in ourselves, or even believing that we can be and do and have what we once thought impossible.
Simply: In any given moment we are who we are; We have what we have. Expecting it to be different in that moment is certain pain.
PAIN = THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OUR EXPECTATION AND WHAT ACTUALLY IS.
It's maths. When we take the risk of bringing our expectations in line with our present tense reality (This is called self compassion), new energy becomes available to us. This is the energy previously consumed by the pain. Once released to us, how we choose to invest that energy is an important personal decision. And beware: It is easy enough (even reflexive) to reinvest in emotional pain. The pain is familiar.
The more difficult and more courageous choice is to invest that energy in a daily practice of self-compassion. This choice will feel awkward, even contrived or fake, at first-- like a right-handed person learning to be left handed. The more awkward the experience, the more self-compassion is needed.
Try using this information to change the maths of your life.
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