Bereavement Explained to Help Those Suffering Losses of a Soulmate in New Book

PRLog (Press Release) - Aug. 29, 2011 - Robert and Jeri Orfali were a team; lovers, soulmates, and co-authors of many technology books from their home in Silicon Valley before relocating to their dream condo in Hawaii.  It was there Jeri’s health took a devastating turn for the worse, as she battled cancer for over a decade, simultaneously loosing her fight while still inspiring her friends with her love for life each and every day.  How does one cope with such a loss?  

“The loss of a soulmate is a truly devastating experience,” said author Robert Orfali during a recent interview. “I was suffering from red-hot pain that seemed to come in waves.  The ‘grief bursts’ just kept coming and coming.  I was almost incapacitated; I could barely function.  I found that dealing with the grief in its entirety can be totally overwhelming,” he stated.  To survive, he developed a system of dealing with the grief.  He explained, “In my computer science days, we dealt with complexity by breaking it down into manageable chunks.  So I tried to break down the grief into categories or ‘buckets.’  I learned how to recognize my grief bursts and assign them to buckets.  Later I devised methods for eradicating the grief in each bucket.”

Readers of Grieving a Soulmate:  The Love Story Behind "Till Death Do Us Part" will no doubt reach deeply into the emotions of all that page this non-fiction book.  It will unearth feelings long buried from memories of loved ones lost, and for those undergoing this healing process the book will provide invaluable advice on how to groom your emotions into manageable partitions, and then heal them one by one.

As Robert Orfali so eloquently stated, “Reading this book won't bring your soulmate back.  It's just a way of sharing my grief with you.  It's about grieving my Jeri, not your soulmate.  I hope that grief theorists will note that soulmate grief is very complicated.  They need to do a better job addressing the specifics of this grief. The literature does not tell us what to do about soulmate grief.  Laissez faire is not a good option, and stages and phases are only descriptive. There is no ‘grief work’ that I am aware of.  I wrote this book to share with you what I learned, and what worked for me.  Hopefully, it can help you, too.  If it helps, pass it on to others.  The proceeds go to hospice: I'm not trying to benefit from Jeri's death.”

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