Are we followers like ‘sheep’ or are we leaders?

May 19, 2011 - PRLog -- Decisions are made during every moment of the day. During this day we experience different emotions. Each and every different emotion affects the quality of our decisions.

Making a decision for example in lethargy would invariably be a poor one. Make the same decision in happiness and you can expect a better result.

Understanding this theory is being wise. For those that don’t associate with the complex workings of the mind choose to look at the same subject but with a more acceptable title. Hence our newsletter title this week – The Art of Living

The art of living… What is that exactly?

Knowing what to do and when, is an ART rather than a choice. Eventually you are going to make the right choice, but the skill in making the right choice every time is an art.

This art is achieved through practice, endurance, experience, tolerance, effort, enthusiasm, discipline and control. For all of these to work, the flow of energy must be purposeful. In achieving this we know the end result is therefore an art.

Creativity is also an essential ingredient. But do you not think that creativity is essentially a flow of ideas?

Consider this… If you were given a direction at 8am in the morning to think of a few new ideas, how easy would that be? Would you try and try, or let go and let go? The wealth of creativity is an art form, and is best cultivated in abundance. For abundance to exist we need to empty our cup and allow it to enter. If we try and try, we are just stirring a full cup.

So in this crazy world do we see THE ART OF LIVING as stirring a full cup, or do we see it as emptying the cup to see what else flows?

Here is a sample story:

MY APPROACH IS A GOOD APPROACH

Practicing what you preach isn’t always so easy it is like having morals but not applying them. So here is my story…

I was in a discussion with other parents about the rights and wrongs of bringing up children.

When you have school friends over to your house and your own siblings are also there it can be either a beautiful experience or a frustrating one. The main cause of a frustrating event is because all the children want to do the same thing and are not prepared to share.

Each and every parent had their own ways to deal with such a problem. We all spoke… almost all in turn; each of these ideas all had justifications.

Sarah’s mom told how she dealt with such problems… As if on cue Sarah’s child appeared and said, “Mummy nobody will let me play, it was my turn next!” It was almost as if what Sarah had been saying hadn’t been applied correctly.

Thomas was the next to speak. He proclaimed he’d got the right approach. His son was the perfect model of a child. On cue his son came to the group of parents and said, “Daddy I was playing with the scooter and Rebecca snatched it off me.”

Gillian spoke next. She suggests that she makes the decisions and her child responds accordingly. On cue her daughter came to the group of parents and said, “Mommy can you tell Michael to get off the bicycle because I’ve waited ten minutes!”

Don’t go trying to understand the right and wrongs of what was said and why, other than recognize the CLAIM.

A CLAIM suggests you know. If your children, as with this parents group, were supposed to be model children and that was your CLAIM, then where were the model children?

Nobody gets it right all of the time. The more you CLAIM the more likely you’ve got it wrong.

What I saw during this parent exchange was one clear and obvious problem. What works for one moment doesn’t necessarily work for another. For a parent to assume they’ve cracked the code for the perfect child is the moment they’ve reached their limit of exploration.

For such principles to be adhered to so rigidly, in this case with their own children, what do we expect the rest of their life to be alike?

We actually KNOW very little as every situation is different. We must therefore be open to new principles and not limit our exploration of the world because we CLAIM we already know.

(Andy Bolton)

from http:// wisdom-and-philosophy.com

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Andria Bolton
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