What is life? What are you focusing on?

April 19, 2011 - PRLog -- Everyone will have a different answer as to what life is about. What is life to you?For some people life is about freedom, for others life is about contribution, life is about joy, life is about love. What is life?  Life is about learning, life is about transformation, life is passion, sex, growth. The definition of what life is comes from our values. However, why do so many people don’t live in a manner consistent with what they say life is about? What prevents people to achieve what they aspire life to represent?

Beliefs have a great influence in how humans live their lives. Believing that our decisions shape our destiny, will have a different impact than believing we have no control over our destiny. Blaming others, a situation or ourselves is the easiest way to escape from responsibility to make a change. It can be scary to accept that our life is what it is because of our decisions. Certain people will try hard to get away from accepting responsibility, and all they can focus on is what is wrong with their lives. Such as, someone born into a poor family blaming their financial circumstance or weak education to whom they have become. Or someone that was born handicapped blaming their physical limitation on who they can be. There are plenty of examples out there where people with the same limitations listed above have managed to succeed and live a fulfilled happy life. The difference is these people decided to focus on opportunities, having fun, love, contributing, making a difference, instead of what does not work in their lives.

Our emotional state is what influences our decisions. If a person feels angry or frustrated, that will have an impact on how that person makes his decisions. If they feel sad, happy, excited, overwhelmed, disappointed, the state they are in, is what shapes their decision.

What is life? Life is about what you focus on. Are you focusing on the things your spouse has been doing wrong or the things he/she has been doing that is right? Are you focusing on loosing weight or being healthy? Are you focusing on making money or making a difference? Are you focusing on having fun or being conservative all the time?

We are all trying to fulfill our human needs of security, variety, being unique, connecting with others, loving and being loved, growing and making a difference. The way how we choose to fulfill those needs are what make some people rich or poor, fat or slim, having amazing relationships or feeling alone, being successful or frustrated and so on.

Furthermore, our life blueprint of what life should be will have a great impact on our level of happiness. If what is life doesn’t match what we think life should be, we will experience a great feeling of sadness. You can test this theory to any other areas of your life. If being married and having kids is something you visualized of what is life and you are not married and do not have kids that will make you feel like something is missing in your life. For some people, a perfect life is a life without children. They think having children will take the fun away from life. For others, children are the fun of life. If your life conditions do not match your life blueprint you will never feel fulfilled.  However, you do have the power to change one or the other.

Decide from now on what life is about to you. What are you going to focus on? Every moment of our lives we are deciding what we are focusing on.

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