Can the hated Julius Malema be loved?

July 6, 2010 - PRLog -- Mention the name Julius Malema and many a right winger needs to take a chill pill. Associated with the name of the man who has topped the news, shaken authority structures and even has been seen as controversial, you find terror, disrespect and ‘what on earth will he do next?'

The challenge is no one understands Malema.

In saying that, the question must be: ‘what are his roots?’ He was raised by a single parent in the Eastern Cape and at the age of 13 already introduced to guns to fight the ‘struggle’. When Malema was in his heightened state of alert, ready to use violence as a means, the new Democracy of the ANC came into power and using his gun to fight the struggle became superfluous.

Please attempt for one moment putting yourself into Malema’s shoes. The proverb says: ‘you will never understand another man until you have walked a mile in his moccasins’.

No stable father /mother environment to be raised in; poised with deep seated aggression to fight the struggle and eventually not being able to do so as a new Government came into power which declared democracy and the ending of an apartheid era.

Maybe compare this with a prize bull in the cage at a rodeo about to be released to be ridden by the reigning rodeo champion. The bull has a rope around his sensitive parts and a confident rider is gripping ferociously to stay on for 8 seconds. To top it all, that once he succeeds in getting rid of the imbecile who thought he could ride this bull, he ends up being teased, jostled and aggravated by a matador clown – a recipe for anger.

Anger is the result of one of three causes, namely hurt, fear or frustration. Dr How to argues, that in the case of Julius Malema, his deep seated pent-up anger is a result of his frustration that he could not use his arms for the purpose he was solicited and trained for originally.  The other factor that no one would even give a second thought, would be the question: ‘did Malema have a father who could raise him like only a father can do? Answer unfortunately, ‘no’.

Having read the excellent book called: ‘Baba, men and fatherhood in SA’, Dr How to quotes the statistics will reveal that 80% of juvenile delinquents who ended up in incarceration, in fact had no fathers.

Dr How to's gift is to ‘Shape Individuals for Significance’. You might be shocked when he says; 'one should not give up on Malema. He is a diamond in the making. All that has to happen to him is that someone has to be willing to look past the façade of toughness and bring forth the best out of Malema.' He believes that he can help Malema – as Malema has much to offer.

Like he said, 'people just don’t understand Julius Malema.'

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