May 27, 2010
-- Lisa Oliver finally realized she had to leave her abusive husband after he tried to kill her twice in one day. "Things had been going from bad to worse over the past six months but even I realized that I had to escape when I had a knife at my throat for more than an hour while my husband ranted at me". What is more difficult for people around her to understand is why did an intelligent, articulate woman stay with the man who started hitting her one month into their four year relationship. Answering this question led Lisa Oliver on a journey that took almost eight years and culminated in her book, "Invisible Bars: Why women won't leave".
"What I wanted to do was to try and put a personal face and story to the complexity that exists in the relationship between an abused woman and her abuser. Too many people turn their backs on the issue of domestic abuse because they don't understand what makes a woman stay in an unhealthy relationship."
One of the things that angers Ms. Oliver now is that too many people ignore the issue of domestic abuse, even to the point of shutting their windows if they hear the neighbors fighting. "The single biggest reason that domestic violence is so rampant in so many countries around the world is because it is a crime committed behind closed doors - it is time to start getting nosy about what the neighbors are doing instead of getting all self-righteous when the Coroners van turns up in the neighboring driveway".
At the moment Ms. Oliver is trying to get funding to print 2000 copies of her book that she then wants to distribute to interested law enforcement officials, policy makers, and social services that deal with domestic abuse at grass roots level. Using the crowdfunding website, RocketHub she is hoping to raise $12,000 to print the first run and if successful will run similar campaigns. So if you want to do something positive to reduce the domestic violence statistics in your neighborhood check out Ms. Oliver's fund raising campaign and secure for yourself a copy of the book that will help you understand the nature of domestic abuse and what you can do about it.
Fund Raising Link: http://www.rockethub.com/projects/109-invisible-bars-why-...
Or Email the author for a digital copy of Invisible Bars at firstname.lastname@example.org.