One sure good thing about parenting is that we learn to change ourselves. We allow ourselves to become a role model especially when we know that our child wants to emulate us. Now being put on the pedestal by our child, we also need to develop patience and constantly instill good things in them. Confidence is an internal feeling. Experts in psychology also say that confidence can be built and there are several ways to do so. But for a child, the confidence has to be given and maintained.
The five year old is wary to go on stage, despite being a good dancer because he or she feels that the make up does not suit them. This is a challenging time and parents can also come out with exasperated remarks. Though the child may perform well, the words spoken to them has a disastrous effect in their mind. Mechanically performing activities should not be the motive for any child. They must develop interest and enjoy the same to ensure improvement.
Using words like, “I know how you feel, But am sure you tried real hard.” Or “This was just a chance for you. The next tournament will be more special.” Children love being appreciated and using a one-to-one approval is very much important. Parenting teaches us to be verbal with our admiration and also use new positive words that boost the morale of our children.
When it comes to exposure, it is better to expose the child to sports or social activities early. This helps them to mingle socially with different age groups and they can make friends easily. Here opens the window of communication. Let your child freely express their fears, happiness, jokes or failures. Make time with them, avoid distractions and listen to them. Many times they just need an ‘I love you’ than a sermon.
Holidays and vacation also helps them charge their skills. They look forward to math and also the skating rink. Encourage children to try their best. Empowering them in their tiny chores like dressing, choosing a shoe or trying out a stocking surely helps their confidence level. If they need improvement then it is important to communicate the same to them. Practical living helps children to be firm with their convictions and we need to accept them as they are.
