In order to stop divorce, you will need to convince the person who wants to divorce you to give the relationship one more try. This isn’t always possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you have a opportunity of stopping a divorce. A separation and divorce can be halted at virtually any stage—before it’s filed or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least not anytime soon.
Therefore to stop a divorce, you have to convince the person to give the relationship one more opportunity. If you have been begging the other person to give you one more try or pleading for them to reconcile with you, discontinue right now. This might seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will make it easier for them to divorce you. But your pleading most likely wasn’t doing anything but persuading them that divorce is a good idea anyway. Does anyone want to be around someone who is behaving that way?
If you're able to start acting more mature and conduct themselves in a more pleasant manner, it might surprise the other person and help stop divorce. Explain that you don't want the divorce and you want one more chance in a calm way. Just make it very clear that you’re hurt and extremely sad, and you really want another chance. You might be astonished exactly how your partner responds when you change your behavior.
You may also display a mature side of yourself that the other person may not have seen over the last several weeks and recommend marital or couples counseling to stop divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your relationship could benefit from it, too. If you're able to get your partner to agree to couples counseling, then you have important time before they file for or make an effort to finalize a divorce to encourage them to give you and the relationship one more chance.
During counseling you will get the chance to show the person why they fell deeply in love with you. You'll be able to help remind them why you’re together in the first place. As well as if you can display sincere effort in wanting to deal with the problems that show up during the counseling—and many probably will—that may be enough to encourage the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but permanently.
About the author: Samantha Smart is the author of several articles concerning the many relationship problems faced by couples everyday. All relationships face difficulties but most can and should be saved if you use proven methods for relationship building. To learn more techniques and tactics for building a healthy relationship visit http://www.HowToSaveRelationship.org/
