Achievements and failures in life are all about growth. A teenager is a bundle of perplexed ideas and yet there is a carefree tone in their demeanor. It takes much more than financial support and an academic direction for a teenager to happy. As the teen expresses their views on adult topics like politics, environment, cause or a standard of living, parents are filled with awe. Most times they feel that they are too forward and do not have the basic grounding but the truth must be much more. May be teens are overt in their expression and believe in the spirit of freedom and hence they express their views boldly.
Most teenagers are misconstrued and misunderstood. They do not have the patience to continuously offer explanations but parents or caregivers need to make time or actually sit down with them to understand their concept. A simple choice of meal that relates to junk food may actually be an emulation of habits which was given to them by us. A complex range of emotions is also possible as hormones are ever-changing in a teenager’s personality.
A home certainly cannot be a boot camp and hence a bit of allowance is necessary. Happy teenagers love the feeling of importance and this can happen when we actually understand them as adults. Though they may not be fully able to combat a situation, it is better to let them deal with it and offer help only when asked. Let them tidy the mess in their room and also instill a habit or a chore that has to be done by them. Night-out rules have to be clear and stress must be laid on rules.
Communication is the only key to raise happy teens. Look out for their special talents like playing the keyboard or organizing a dog show. It is amazing to note their love for trees and also let them do their own bit for the society. Look through their eyes and the colors of the rainbow appear the same – except brighter. Encourage them to have a new hairstyle and the new gadget but also show them that the need to be a nice human being is more important.
Self esteem in teenagers needs to be enhanced in every way. Let them tell you about their rejections and success. Show them you love and need their help. Appreciate, smile and relive your own teenage vicariously.
