A man once came home to his wife, who told him she was leaving him. The man, who was a furniture salesman, was baffled and asked why. She told him she had discovered his infidelity. Searching through his diary, she had found the name 'Val' written many times, sometimes five times a week, at different appointment times during the day. Each time Val was listed at a different address. After visiting the addresses the wife just found empty houses.
'You are meeting this Val in empty houses, you cheat!' said the wife.
'You fool.' Said the husband. 'Val stands for valuation. I was meeting new home buyers to quote on furnishing their house.'
There lies a prime example of a breakdown in communication in marriage. On the outset, the conclusion the wife made about the husband seem logical. However, instead of talking to her husband about her suspicions, she has taken an extreme action causing a rift in the relationship.
Do you feel like communication is breaking down in your marriage? Perhaps there are issues beneath the surface that you just don't know how to bring up. Maybe you think there is something your partner isn't telling you. Two partners in a marriage, however close, can end up like two ships passing in a dark night. They are right next to each other, but they just are not reading the signals properly. An important part of marriage counselling is learning to build communication and fix the issues that already exist therein.
A marriage counselling session will help you pinpoint the problem areas of your marriage. You can then work with your spouse to find a resolution for these problems through communicating calmly and fairly with each other. The first step of communication is to clearly voice what you want. Whether you need more help or support form your partner, answers to questions from them or anything else, ask for it in clear and simple terms. Perhaps even write down what you are meaning to say before you do so. Find out more at http://www.relationshipcounsellingsydney.net
Be fair in your requests. Asking for something unreasonable or impossible, then getting upset when you do not receive is not going to be a winning situation for anyone. Screaming, fighting or throwing things is never constructive. It seems obvious, but it can be easy to forget in the heat of the moment. The calm and comfortable environment of a counsellor's office is often a much easier and effective place to do this.
Marriage counselling is not just about fixing the parts of your relationship that have fallen apart. It's about helping both you are your partner gain effective skills to better yourselves and your relationship.
You can find out more about marriage counselling in Sydney by visiting http://www.marriagecounsellingsydney.net
