With all the negative press about the economy it is very easy for us to think that it is all doom and gloom - stuck in a loop with your partner arguing about the same points. It’s also common for the stress of money problems to leave you frayed and easily susceptible to dysfunctional arguments. The Couple Connection, a UK charity, can help you and your partner back to a healthier relationship with free advice and support. How to Argue Better is a brand new guide from www.thecoupleconnection.net to help couples cope with relationship issues from the recession, http://thecoupleconnection.net/
Here are some everyday relationship myths that illustrate how vital communication is for couples and the whole of the family.
“Having a good relationship with my partner means no arguing.”
We are bombarded with images in the press of “perfect” couples thus reinforcing the common myth that a healthy relationship with your partner means one without arguments. In fact, arguments can be very healthy for your relationship. As unique individuals, it is only natural to have disagreements. The key is to make sure you argue constructively;
“My partner doesn’t understand me”
A very common statement made by a large number of people who are experiencing difficulties in their relationship. Remember, it maybe less about your partner not understanding you and more that you each have different viewpoints. It might be that you and your partner need to change the way you communicate with each other.
“The kids don’t know there is a problem.”
Children are very receptive to their environment and can pick up on the smallest changes in the atmosphere. For example, a recent survey carried out by Asda (July 2009) showed that 18% of parents thought their children worried about money, but in actual fact when children were asked the figure was 55% were worrying about money. A surprising result highlighting that children pick more from their environment than their parents often give them credit for.
If you are parents as well as partners, help your children cope better…
Explain – you are arguing but are trying to sort it out
Reassure – it’s not their fault and you love them
Try to argue better – follow our how to argue guide to help resolve your disagreements
Communication is the vital ingredient in many successful relationships. Remember that all couples have disagreements;
