Ahh February - time for new romances and putting a little more zest back into older relationships. Dr. Kelley Brigman, author of Marriage: A Simple Guide to Success, offers these tips for anyone interested in sweeping a partner off his - or her - feet every day.
“Love is about caring and giving; it is something we do, not something we get,” Brigman says. “By being generous, you can create more and more of the love you want for yourself.”
To create a whole lot of love this month, Brigman suggests creating a romance ritual. Courting couples just naturally create rituals like “our song” or the goodnight kiss to help hold the relationship together. By repeating the same loving action over and over, you will create new ties between you and your partner. Make every day Valentine’s Day with these romance rituals.
Love Notes - This one is so easy - just write I Love You on a sticky note and tuck it somewhere where she is definitely going to see it - coffee pot, mirror, steering wheel, on her purse. Repeat often. To really make an impact, make it one a day for the whole month of February- sure to catch her attention.
Those Car Doors - really! Unless she tells you otherwise, never miss an opportunity to open the car door and tuck her in. A helping hand when she is getting out gives you extra points!
Saturday Morning Lazies - Coffee and the morning funnies together. Pancake Day. A long walk together around the neighborhood. Give yourselves time to reconnect in some simple way after a hectic week.
Flowers - one simple carnation every Friday or an armful of roses once a year - the impact can be in the repitition. “I have sent my wife flowers every February 12 for 20 years to commemorate the day we met - it is a ritual we both value,” Brigman says on a personal note.
Church - attending church together can be a wonderful bonding ritual.
Catch him doing something nice - and say thanks. Most relationships involve lots of little caring actions each day. What does your partner do that makes your life better? A simple “Thank you for doing my laundry” or Thanks for fixing such a good dinner” or "I really appreciate you picking up the kids tonite" can be a very rewarding ritual. “Expressing gratitude on a regular basis makes us more aware of all the good we originally saw in our relationships,”
Rituals grow better with age so start today to create a love habit with your partner.
Learn more simple tips for creating a great relationship at http://MarriageAGuide.com.
