According to Creating Positive Outcomes therapist Christine Hardway, “The holidays are over and we start thinking of goals for the New Year. Many people find it hard to stay committed to a resolution that they have made for a variety of reasons. Some people make New Year’s resolutions that are unrealistic, and therefore, impossible to accomplish.”
A common resolution is to maintain good health. This is so important for many reasons. Too often, people overlook health issues that could have been treated earlier and prevented. It is important for all of us to have an annual physical exam. Make it your priority in 2009.
New Year’s resolutions can also involve settling financial matters especially in these difficult economic times. Look at your financial picture and make sure that you are planning. Being responsible with finances can decrease stress. Stable finances will create more harmonious relationships with your family and friends. Try to address financial problems in a straightforward manner; avoiding problems may exacerbate the situation. If finances are causing relationship problems, it may be time to visit a therapist.
As a marriage and family counselor, Christine Hardway suggests in the New Year to look at relationships with those with whom you are close. “Are there feelings of hurt or anger in your relationships?
Research shows that end-of-the year resolutions rank higher than other goals in terms of commitment because they represent personal aims that people really care about. Despite this emphasis, 22% of people fall off the wagon after a week, according to a paper published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology. And after three months, half the adults surveyed had called it quits. Below I provide a framework for success compiled from my client experiences;
Tips for Successful New Year’s Resolutions:
Tip 1: Share your resolutions with friends and family that can provide a support group. If you don’t have access to a positive support system reach out to a life coach or counselor to work with you toward your goals.
Tip 2: Write down your resolution and make it a visible reminder. The steps you will take to keep it. Have a simple plan. Talk to your support group about your resolution and your plan of action—it is vital for your success.
Tip 3: Keep it simple with achievable milestones. Separate big goals into a series of smaller achievable milestones. Once you achieve a set milestone, celebrate with your friends and family support group.
Tip 4: After celebrating your milestone with your support group or therapist, it is important to reward yourself so you can achieve your ultimate goal. For example, after losing 5 pounds buy a new piece of clothing to highlight your achievement.
Tip 5: Make small changes. You have all year to achieve your milestones and goal. Remember you have 365 days available to celebrate your achievements all year long!
Contact: Christine Hardway
Creating Positive Outcomes
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