These children are the silent victims of a family law institution purposely designed to deny a child a meaningful relationship with one of their parents, simply because the parents had divorced. These family law orphans are the legacy of a fundamentally flawed system that has treated children as the ultimate prize, to be won by one parent and lost by the other. (According to the Family Court of Australia, 97.5% of all family law proceedings result in the children losing one of their parents).
For more than three decades, the best interests of the child was a maxim in words only, masquerading an industry obsessed with promoting adversarial conflict, entrenching gender stereotypes, and insisting on a winner-takes-
But some people in federal parliament would have you think that things have been changing for the better, especially since the introduction last July of what some claim to be the 'most significant changes to family law in the last thirty years'.
Ash Patil, President of equal parenting group Fathers4Equality, states that despite it still being too early to pass judgment on the application of the legislation by the courts, the intent of the Family Law Amendment (Shared Parental Responsibility)
(i) That there is a rebuttable presumption of equal joint parental responsibility.
(ii) That if this presumption is not rebutted (through credible concerns for the child's safety, for instance), then the Court must consider an equal parenting time arrangement, or whatever shared parenting time arrangement is requested.
(iii) If such an arrangement is not awarded, the Court must clearly explain why.
Ash Patil states that the legislation is designed to promote significant and substantial shared parenting time (with both parents) for children of divorce, while at the same time bolstering safeguards against legitimate and credible risks to the child's safety, and allowing the Court ample discretion against impractical arrangements that simply would not work. Ash says that "with some fathers having already applied and been granted 5 and 6 days residence out of every 14, we have some hope that things are improving."
"However, we continue to have some serious concerns about the entrenched anti-male bias through-out every level of the family law industry, the escalation of false domestic violence allegations as a tactic of depriving access to children, and a lack of consistency on the application of the legislation throughout the registries."
However, despite it being over a year since the new Family Law Amendment act has come into force, James Adams of Fathers4Equality says that he is still dismayed at the level of ignorance displayed by many fathers (and their solicitors) at the changes. "We get emails every single day from desperate and sometimes suicidal fathers in the midst of separation, who are close to breakdown because they fear that they will never see their kids again". James says that the threats of denying access to children, often made by mothers during separation, may have been a truism in the past, but is less likely to be endorsed by the courts today.
James says that considering the grim suicide statistics awaiting fathers after divorce, where more men suicide every year than this country's total road death toll, the importance of educating those most vulnerable about these changes cannot be understated.
Although grateful at the commitment the Prime Minister has shown in changing these flawed family laws, Fathers4Equality is requesting that the government do more to promote the message of change. Ash says that "this is as much about changing the expectations of a whole community as it is about informing father's of the recent changes".
The jury is still out on whether the courts, who have been historically resistant to any form of shared parenting initiatives, will interpret these laws as they were intended over time, but the whole family law reform package put out by the government has underscored a decisiveness for change, that at face value, seems quite genuine, at least for now.
Let's hope that the Family Law courts live up to the intent of the legislation. Then maybe next year, many more children will get to spend father's day with their dad.
If you want to comment on your experience with the new family law reforms, or read about the experiences of others, visit the Fathers4Equality blog at:
http://blog.fathers4equality-
Keywords: Family law reform, family law amendment act, child custody, family relationship centers, "Every picture tells a story", male suicide, sexism, equal parenting, fathers4equality
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James Adams - Fathers4Equality-
Mobile: 0417 258 364
http://www.fathers4equality-
