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PRLog (Press Release) –
May 20, 2007 – Throughout the past 6 years we have had a wonderful relationship with our grandchildren never suspecting for a minute anything could change the bliss we felt. Now my wife and I are devastated at our sons break up with his wife. The split was very acrimonious and we are shattered to learn we have now no contact or no legal rights of contact to our grandchildren who have been terribly alienated from us.
For help and advice we became members of Grandparents Apart Self Help Group Scotland, an organisation dedicated to having the *‘Charter for Grandchildren’
made legal in order to obtain legal rights of contact for grandchildren with their grandparents and to stop children being used as weapons in family arguments. We ask for your support in this.
Our grandchildren’s parents have split up but we or the children have done no wrong and do not get to see each other anymore. We had a really good relationship with the children until the break up and we know the children are wondering why we have not seen them lately. If we had legal right of contact the mother would not be able to blackmail us or use them to get at our son through us. She does it because she says the law is on her side. We realize she must be hurting over the split up but the children are being damaged too by her actions. The way the law is it is helping her to separate the kids from the rest of their family who loves them dearly, and they are losing out.
What really worries us is a friend has informed us the kids mum has now been telling them horrible things about us that are not true. What is she filling their heads with? Is it just for revenge?. Unfortunately we cannot speak to them to offset the lies being told as she has threatened to get a lawyer on to us if we even look in her direction.
We wonder why the law is so unfair in allowing and abetting one person to use children like this. They should be completely protected from such things by the continuous contact with the family they had before any break up. Then one person would find it futile to twist their minds with lies and deceit. After all it is not the children’s fault.
We have sent a letter asking their mum to meet with us and a counsellor but it was returned torn in half along with one of the children’s birthday presents.
Heartbroken grandparents.
*‘The Charter for Grandchildren’ is a non legal advisory document created by the Scottish Executive with the help of this group. It is supposed to encourage families and professionals to take the role that grandparents can play in children’s lives more seriously. The Charter can be seen on http://www.grandparentsapart.co.uk
